People look at me and complement me on how calm and relax I am. But you know right at this moment it is a bit much. For some reason this is not expected of me. Being always up beat and looking for the positive in any situation.
To give you a look at what kind of reactions I get. I thought I’ll share some the questions I get asked. One could be; “You’ve been moving for the last 14 year, this must be easy for you and your family. You all have so much experience.” Hmmm, well it is in a way, but not all the time. As every country is different and we do change over time and what is important to us is different as well this time around. Another fun question I get is “but you are a life coach, so dealing with stressful situations like these much be easy.” To be honest, knowing what to do, doesn’t make it any easier. We’re all just human and there are day’s and situation, that the only thing that left to do is screaming really loud. It clears out a lot of frustration. After that we can start again. The question of the week has been, “but you’re psychic, you see all this coming! Right?” Hummmm, no this is not how these things works. But to be honest is does make me laugh really hard and gave me back my sense of humor. This make sure that I am standing with 2 feet on the ground.
Thinking about all these questions and wondering about why do we humans think the way we do. We make very quickly assumptions and react acordingly.
Moving around in to different countries has given me a lot of knowledge and my patience as been tested over and over and over again. But we all have these periods in our lives where this happens and sometimes they are short term and sometimes they go on for every. The thing that is different for me this time is, I am willing to talk about it. After being burned out from it all, gained weight to much from it during another move, hide inside the new home my last move. It is this time for a tool that works. I am sharing and talking about all the things that are happening around me.
It is simple, I feel overwhelmed and know for sure that I am not the only one. Being overwhelmed happens to the best of us. Busy week, important project, having a sick loved one to take care of on top of your already busy live, being a new parent and trying to juggle all the new stuff that is being thrown at you and trying to be your “normal” self. There are many more scenarios that come to my mind. It is important to remember that you are not the only one. It is very normal that you are overwhelmed and there is no need to be ashamed. It is very simple realise that there is a point that you know it is enough and lets be honest this realisation will be that moment when we crack and it is probably not the moment that is the roughest. The moment that we crack is when it is has been enough. That famous last straw.
Lets not wait for that last straw this time. Have a dialogue about it with friends, family. Tell them about all the things that have been happening lately, I really need help or can you just listen to me. If you know some one, pick up the phone, drop by with some coffee and just be there. It is not so much the doing that is important at this moment it is more the being in these situation that will make the difference.
Lots of love!
Ps: I am here and ready to listen and I love coffee :).