Just let go of what doesn’t work!
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
– Albert Einstein
It is already week two in the new year. I have had a busy week, with little time for myself. That is what sometimes what happens in a family. But this week it was not a matter of choice nor of control. It was all completely out of my say and it meant that we all just had to deal with the situation we were in. Stuck together. Funny enough we all did. Sometimes you can surprise yourself, but to be surprise by others at the same time is a good feeling. It got me thinking on the thinks I had planned to do, when the holiday season was over. The goals I had set out and the activities that I want to do. We all start of a new period with a lot of energy and many things on our to do list.
Because we were all completely thrown out by this week and not able to do what we had set out to do, it is very easy to slip back into bad habits. Looking at that I wondered what wasn’t working for me last year. It is moments like these, being challenged, that there is a choice. What do we choose right now and what did we choose last year! It made me really quite and I reflected back. Because it is important to let by gone’s be by gone’s. There are many stories and even songs written about this. Last year I wrote about leaving luggage behind. So not to be able to start with what I had planned could be considered to be a set back. It didn’t feel like that at all. It sure gave me an opportunity to think about what could I leave in 2011.
To be honest the most important one for me is, don’t over think every thing. Any one recognizing this? It probably is the number one thing that takes away a lot of my time and energy. It is a silly thing to do. We all know that, but it is so easy to get yourself into. It comes from a point of really caring for every one around you and even a way for looking to get approvement from others in the circle we life in. Is it? “Was I kind to this person today” or “Completely forgot that she has a special diet” or “I should have helped my colleague to finish her presentation this afternoon?”. These are often the starting points and then the over thinking is creating a complete life of their own. Things from last week, last year, yesterday and what will happen tomorrow will start popping into our heads. But none of all of this will help us, it will only take away attention from other events going on around us at that moment. So it will be a lot better to stop this all together. Of course that is easier said than done. A good start is to take a deep breath when you notice this is going on. Don’t judge yourself, just notice. After this to just say stop. After taking time to breath and really notice that you’re breathing is becoming calmer and more from the belly. Then you can start to replace your thoughts with events that were nice that day. There are always so many nice encounter with friends and colleague’s. This is where we start a different look at what has happened today. The great lady at the shop that really liked you hair or you when you stepped in for a colleague. It all starts to change with that first step you take to pay attention to events differently.
What will be your thing to leave behind in 2011?
This post is part of a blog hop series sponsored by students and graduate Coaches of ICA. Please hop on over to their posts and see what else you can learn about ”What did you learn from 2011 that you’ll change in 2012?”.
In Sight Life Coaching:
http://insightlifecoaching.co/2012/01/16/what-did-you-learn-from-2011-that-youll-change-in-2012/
Joyful Growth Coach:
http://joyfulgrowthcoach.com/2012/01/what-did-you-learn-from-2011-that-you-will-change-in-2012/
Coachinu:
http://coachinublog.com/2012/01/16/lessons-learnt-in-2011-that-could-make-a-better-2012/
Learner Focused Coaching
http://learnerfocusedcoaching.com/2012/01/16/how-do-you-measure-a-year/
Bodacious Possibilities
http://bodaciouspossibilities.com/2012/01/looking-back-looking-forward/
Turning Stones Coaching and Consultancy
What I am is What I Choose
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jolande de grijs
remember a funny picture you placed on your website on mindfullness… knowing and applying are two completely different worlds sometimes. Yes I am guilty without feeling guilty and that is already a step forward
love jolande
Renée Vos de Wael
Very true, Jolande. Renee x
Louise
Great insights! I need to be reminded of not trying to keep doing the same things over and over and expecting different results! As I really don’t think I’m insane! LOL. Thank you, Renee, for reminding me to be present and to breathe. I have a tendency to hold my breath at times, and need that reminder.
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Tyanne
This is what we need – an insgiht to make everyone think
coachinu
Awareness! Absolutely. I agree with you. Once you are conscious about a behavior, whatever it might be, the actions and emotions around it will never be the same. So using that awareness can be a great first step into changing a routine that doesn’t serve you anymore. Thanks for the reminder.
Sandra Seibert
I like your reminder of being present and moving on very much. I tend to overthink situations and events afterwards, which doesn’t help at all. Thanks for this, Renee. I will take that with me and remember to stay in the present and to let go of things/ situations that are gone.
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Tracy
Renee’,
I love this…”Don’t judge yourself, just notice.” Being aware changes everything. Wishing you a fabulous year full of awareness and insight.
Tracy
Renée Vos de Wael
Thank you Tracy! Same too you:)
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