Who has confidence in himself will gain the confidence of others. ~ Leib Lazarow
We all know this phrase. This is something we do on a daily basis, just like the step-mother in the world famous fairy tale. We look in the mirror and what do we see. What do we say to ourselves? It is an interesting one, why do we always see something completely different from the person we really are. We see that we have gained weight, that we have wrinkles. We see that we were drunk the night before, that we felt unconvertible during dinner and started blabbing just to get ride of the silence of the others at the table. Or were we blabbing too much and the others couldn’t get a word in? We look at the mirror and we start judging. We start using words that we won’t use for other people in our lives because they are to cruel, but we do tell this to the most important person in your life, YOU?
To be honest with oneself is a work in process. We need to find a way to change this. If you’re not ready to change, it will stay difficult to look into your own mirror. Yes, we can be terrible sometimes and forget to be kind to others, sometimes because we’re not in a kind place. Or the community you live in, is just not easy to always be in a kind place. That is okay, always reminder that you can start a new every moment. The moment is now and this is the moment to make a choice. Go and apologize and stop beating yourself up for something that has happened. Nothing we can do about it when it is out there. To be negative about it with give it even more fuel to grow and grow in to something that didn’t happen at all!
Be happy that you are noticing that it is time for a change and know that there is support out there. The biggest support is you! To be the person that you know you are, to be the person that loved ones already see in you. This is the greatest gift you can give yourself. You don’t need to do this on your own, you have a great support system around you already. Be open to what you are guided to, ask for help and don’t be shy. Your question is never too much or to big. The answer is out there, but to get your answer you need to ask the question. You’ll be surprised all that is there just for you. Don’t forget that you need to invest in yourself. There needs to be a balance between giving and receiving. After you have given out to others, you can take some time for you. Have a massage, find a good coach, have a quite coffee just with you, go to a yoga/sports class.
Are you ready to start investing in yourself? Buy a new mirror and have a look to see for real who you are.