Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear. ~ Mark Twain
Fear what does that mean to you? This is a word that is used very often and sometimes I wonder if it is really a bad thing. Fear is an emotion that comes naturally as a situation is dangerous or when we were taught that a situation is dangerous. Especially as parents we spend a lot of time explaining to our kids when they should be alert and pay attention. As they do look at situations from a completely differently point of view. It also depends on where you grow up. Your point of reference to danger and how to react is different then as well. We often get confused if something is really a danger to us or that we think it is dangerous. Shouldn’t we only feel fear in a life and death situation?
These day’s we are so often witness to some one else’s problems that this makes it sometimes difficult to notice the difference between being an observer or that the trouble is truly in our own life’s. The combination with the pressure in our day to day life which is most of the time very high. It can feel like a real thread for example in work situations, social pressure or financial responsibilities. It can become so scary that you become fearful of all this. We would completely forget that these moments are learning and growing moments in our life. These are the great adventures we tell about later to our friends and families, because we know that all is well again.
What is it we need to ensure that we can move past these feelings? So that life will not be that all eating monster that makes you fearful. A good start is to wonder if it is your own fear or that it is the fear of some one else. Try to write a list for yourself when the feeling of fear does come up. It can be that you are a real empathic person and you feel the fear of other people in your environment. This can be overwhelming and it feels as it is truly yours. Looking from a distance we can see it is not the case and the responsibility should go back to the rightful owner. When we go thru the list, it is a lot easier to put all the situations into the right category. All that is not yours can be given back right away and wish them good luck.
If these emotions are yours, then it becomes important to look at them as single individuals. We all know the feeling after a party and it is time to clean up the room. This can be an overpowering feeling. So it is important to make this a smaller task. We all have our own system to clean a big messy room in smaller steps. The same steps we can use to look at our fears and make this smaller. What is really in our own control and what is the part we need to let go. To make sure that we can grow. These circumstances need space to venture out and to get bigger and stronger to support us. Is it not true that if you like to reach your new destination you need to leave your old one? Only then you can see where you have gotten and how beautiful the journey was to get there. Even if there were some hick ups along the way.
What tips do you have to share with other travellers?
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