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What if what you say is not what you sense?

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…” ~ Dr. Seuss

blog 8 januari 2013

Sitting in a conversation and trying to make sense of what is really happening.  Do you know that feeling?  You are in the same place, having a cup of coffee together with friend, work colleagues and it seems to be a nice conversation, but why doesn’t it feel like it.  That was happening to me the other day. It seemed to be a day like no other.  The group of people that where together I know for a very long time and it was a nice topic to talk about.  Still you could sense that something was up.  Not sure what, people where smiling, exchanging compliments you would think nothing was wrong.  I took a step back and notice that underneath the complements and smile there was a lot more going on. What feelings were being triggered here?  It was not a safe place at all.  On a completely different level there were psychic kicks being delivered and you could see that some where trying to keep up with it all not really understanding what was going on as well.

We can’t see this part of ourselves, but together with body and mind it makes up our whole being. And every time we interact with others in a visible way, tangible way, on the level of the spirit an invisible exchange of energy is taking place too. This is when we talk about our day and start describing our day. The people we have met and interacted with. We use phrases as; She’s being pushy, The whole group was held hostage by his behavior, I made a suggestion but I was shot down. With our words we are able to describe what has happened or what has happened afterwards.  We simple don’t feel well when we live or work in environment like this and in the long run we will get really ill.

If we look at the cultures of indigenous cultures, we can learn from them that there is a difference between sending negative energy and merely expressing it. WHen someone is expressing his or her anger without sending out that poison arrow to any one, he or she is just acknowledging the feeling that are being experienced.  At this time and age we are not aware any more about the invisible and shoot our arrows unconsciously.  This is way we don’t realize that we are harming other around us. It is important to express your feelings, because otherwise you are harming yourself as well. In the next few weeks, I’ll be writing about how your can shift this energy within you and around you. For this moment just observe what is happing in you daily live.  It is not what we do that changes the world, it is who we become.

Namaste Renée


  • Martina

    Dear Renee,
    this is soo true. However, most people would not feel these energies and it can be a burden if you do. I like the way you handle it and I like your postings. Love

    • Renée Vos de Wael

      Yes, Martina I do know the feeling that is difficult if you’re the only one that is noticing what is going on an energetic level. For me it was important to just notice and not judge for a while. Later I moved on to deal with it differently, but the the period was and still is a real eye opener. Thanks for your comment, always great to hear from you. XXX

  • jolande de grijs

    Dear Renee, Good article. PLease explain more what you mean with your last sentence
    It is not what we do that changes the world, it is who we become.

    love Jolande

    • Renée Vos de Wael

      What I mean is that by observing we are maybe not actively doing, but we are becoming a different person by noticing. This will change us and our environment in the long run. Thanks for asking. X

  • Miriam

    Thank you very much, Renée, for this outstanding post! I pick up on those energies a lot, and realize now that I also unintentionally shoot arrows from time to time. Often that happens because I simply don’t know who to handle those situations… Good to become aware of that. I’m looking forward to reading your next posts about this.
    Love and light,

    • Renée Vos de Wael

      Absolutely, awareness this the key! A good step to take is, watch your breathing during these situation. This will be a great help. 🙂

  • Julie

    Dear Renée, I am following you for a while now, love your articles, advice, insights and experience. This was a great article and totally true. I actually fully agree with Martina’s comments. Am looking forward to your next articles.
    Love Julie

  • Charlene

    Yes, Renee, I am aware of these negative energies–not everyone has the level of sensitivity to sense these energies. When I am sensing these negative energies, I sometimes get angry and frustrated with people in general. But Yoga and meditation has taught me how to step back and try not to internalize and react to the negative energies of other people as much–but just to observe and move on with my own life in as positive manner as possible. I have also studied self-hypnosis as a means to this also. As an undergraduate, I majored in Psychology and Sociology in college and then went on and completed a master’s degree in Counseling and Guidance a few years before I decided to continue on with my education with law school–my study of psychology and counseling allowed me to understand human emotion and behavior better. On a level of Christian spirituality, I understand that God knows all people to have good and bad in them and many are not at a level of self-actualization and development within themselves to realize that they have the power of choice to attempt to move away from their negative and bad behaviors/emotions towards the positive and good in themselves every minute, hour, and day of their lives to help make living in this world a better place each day–in other words, moving towards the type of life that God knows can be possible on this earth. So I have learned how to forgive and not judge and try to be understanding of the negative energies/emotions in others that at times make me feel feel hurt, angry, and frustrated. There truly is a need for a continued “spiritual/emotional awakening” in every human being to self-actualize and realize that everyone needs to learn how to better manage their emotions/energies to help make this world a better place to live each day. It truly is possible for each human being to learn how to manage his/her emotions and spiritual energies to have a very positive and fulfilling life every minute, hour, and day of their life!

    • Renée Vos de Wael

      Thanks Charlene for your beautiful inside. I agree with you. The good thing is that more and more people are getting aware of these energy and this is a good point where the swift can happen. Love Renee

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